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I Found My “Why”


Philippians 2:12 (AMP)

 12 So then, my dear ones, just as you have always obeyed [my instructions with enthusiasm], not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence, continue to work out your salvation [that is, cultivate it, bring it to full effect, actively pursue spiritual maturity] with awe-inspired fear and trembling [using serious caution and critical self-evaluation to avoid anything that might offend God or discredit the name of Christ].

I’ve been looking for my “Why.”  Why?  It is what leaders tell you to do when you’re operating and growing a business.  It is really something everyone needs to do to live the life that God designed for them.  We need a bigger reason or motivation to get up in the morning.  We need something outside ourselves.  If the obvious answer to you is God, I agree.  But we need to flesh that out in our own unique ways.

Many people say their family is their “Why.” That makes sense.  We all want to help our families.  And if that means focusing on making an income to give things to our families, that’s okay.  God likes to give good gifts to His children; and as His children, we like to give good gifts to ours.  And young families especially feel this passion toward helping their children grow and become even more than they are themselves.

But for me, even feeling all those things, I still didn’t feel like I had the right answer to my “why.”  Perhaps it is because my children are grown, and I’m not living that day-to-day life of raising children anymore.  Of course, I want good things and opportunities for my grandchildren, but I get to add the perks in their lives.  Their parents are responsible for the basics.  And I still want things for my own children, but I can give too much if I want them to rely on God and their own gifts.  I am not their provider.

So, what’s my why?

I kept looking at my gifts trying to find my passion or my “what.”  And that led to another dilemma.  What are my gifts?  I don’t mean to say I don’t have any.  In fact, I feel God has blessed me with many gifts.  I love many things—maybe too many.  How do I narrow it down?

Well, that’s an exploration for another blog, but the short version is this.  After writing down all the things I love, narrowing it to those I can see myself doing daily, and eliminating those that are more hobby or rest oriented, I had these left:  writing, creating (graphics, plans, etc.), reading, teaching, talking.  My “aha” moment came when I realized these are all the same thing—communication.  You would think that would be obvious, right?  The problem is, I was trying to isolate one as my true “passion,” but constantly coming back to others.  They are all pieces of the same pie.

Once I had determined that my “what” or my passion is communication, I circled back to re-evaluate my “why.”  And I discovered much the same thing in my next “aha” moment. I had been praying and exploring this for several days when I came across an interview someone had with one of my former students.  He discovered his passion early in life.  His passion is helping others.  He actively seeks to help someone every day.  He also actively seeks to help others by taking on things that are bigger than he is.  In this way he draws in others to help.  And because he draws in others, he is able to accomplish things far beyond what he imagined.  That interview came to my mind when I was looking at my why. I realized all of my “why’s” fell into a broader category, just as all my “what’s” had fallen into a broader category.

My why is people, and like my former student, helping people.  When I talk to people and teach them about essential oils, I help them to consider and evaluate their own health and well-being. This frequently leads to conversations beyond essential oils to diet, exercise, and healthful lifestyles.  When I write my blog, I hope to help and encourage others by showing them that we are all on this journey to grow into who God designed us to be.  When I write fiction and work on revising my novel for publication, I hope to help and encourage young people to read and to discover God for themselves.  When I talk and listen to my family and friends, I help to meet their needs by doing whatever I can.  When I spend time with my grandchildren—talking and interacting with them—I help them learn and know about God and our family. And when I study, rest, meditate, and pray, I help myself to grow so I have more to offer others.

It may seem crazy to be trying to evaluate all these things at my age.  But when you transition out of a full-time career into a new area of business and a much freer schedule, you are constantly evaluating whether you are using your time effectively. You have to find or clarify your life purpose. You ask, “Is there balance in my life?  Could I or should I be doing more?”  I knew I needed to answer my “what” and my “why” before I could hope to evaluate or prioritize my schedule.

So, all the studying and writing and soul-searching I have done over the past month have paid off in some answers.  God is faithful.  I will take what I have learned and continue to walk it out by looking for new opportunities to help others with the gifts and passions God has given to me. Nothing has really changed but my focus.  I knew all of these things about myself before; but my soul-searching has shown me how all of the things I love to do can work together.  I don’t have to choose.  God means for me to do all of these things.  My “why” in this life is helping people.  My vehicle for doing that is communication.  God will guide me to the people He wants me to help, and I will communicate His love to them through my writing, creating, talking and listening, and teaching. And I’ll keep on reading and communicating with God to learn more and grow in Him.

On Purpose


I have just started the book Start: Punch Fear in the Face, Escape Average and Do Work That Matters by Jon Acuff.

In Chapter 1, I was a bit worried because the author kept talking about becoming awesome instead of average.  While I understood the spirit of what he was saying, it still bothered me that I was being encouraged to pursue being awesome.  No one is awesome except God; and the only way that I become awesome is by allowing God to work through me.  Even then, while I might at some point be considered awesome in the eyes of others, I am not awesome.  God is awesome in and through me.  It’s all Him.  Not me.  I can only take credit for surrendering and allowing Him to use me.  No, not even that.  Because without God’s help, I can’t do anything—not even surrender.  He is All in All.  But I do aspire to allow Him to use me for the purpose I was created, so I continue on.

Recently, I began a new home business as a distributor.  That’s why I am reading the book. I want to be good at what I’m doing and learn new things.  The leader of my team is a dynamic young woman who is clearly achieving the purpose for which she is called.  She has not only been successful in this business in a relatively short period of time; she also has developed strategies, training, and leadership to help others be successful.  Many of these team members are young.  They are building their lives, dreaming their dreams, and looking at the future with unlimited possibilities.  That’s great.

But I am 60 years old.  I am a newly retired teacher who “happened” upon a new business and felt God opening a door.  And I have dreams.  But I’m not looking at a limitless future.  Don’t get me wrong.  I’m not depressed by the fact that my projected life span is more than half over, while these younger people have twice as many years ahead of them.  I’m just in a different place.  And, I’ll admit, all this talk of going after your dreams has had me a bit conflicted.  I’m not sure I have one, overarching dream.  I have lots of dreams, and some of them may not be compatible.  Some of them may require choices, and at 60, the reality is, I probably won’t get to do all of them.

I have been seeking God’s direction since I retired (well before that, too, but you know what I mean), and so far I haven’t felt led to take off in any particular direction, other than to keep trying to work this new business.  But I have had lots of ideas and things that I feel God is leading me to. People have said to me that I should just rest.  And that’s true.  After thirty years of teaching, a little rest is probably deserved.  I really don’t have the energy yet to take off on some new project or life goal that is going to absorb my every waking hour.  If I wanted that, I could have kept teaching.  But I can’t rest forever.  So, in reading further in Start, by the time I hit Chapter 3, a few things Acuff says resonated with me.

1. Live with purpose and enjoy a thousand different passions as you continually walk the road to awesome.[i]

Since I have a lot of interests and passions, I like the “permission” of enjoying and pursuing them all.  Additionally, I have confidence that eventually God will let me know if one of them is going to standout.

2. Whatever you’re going to do, do it with purpose Not purpose as if a key you’re going to find in the bottom of a trunk of old sweaters, but rather as if purpose is an approach to life that can shape everything you do![ii]

Yes, yes, and yes! Brings to mind Colossians 3:23.  My purpose is to please God and to walk in His truth.  I can do this no matter what else I’m pursuing. I also like that he says there is no key—no one magical moment when you say, “Aha, I’ve found my purpose and now I’m done.”  Purpose isn’t a destination.

3. . . . purpose usually finds you. Purpose is attracted to motion.  Purpose is attracted to momentum.  Purpose loves to surprise you mid-stride.[iii]

I love this.  It means I don’t have to sit around waiting.  I need to be doing something.  I have been trying this, and it’s nice to have some validation.  Every time I think I should just sit back and watch it happen, I can’t.  I realize I have to keep things moving.  Even if the things I plan aren’t great or don’t succeed, I have to DO something.  And while I’m doing it, maybe, just maybe, some larger purpose of God’s will present itself to me.

So age is not an issue.  If purpose isn’t a destination, then we are all on a journey.  We are just on different parts of the road.  The scenery may vary.  The road conditions may vary.  The speed may vary. But we are all on the journey.

In the last two days, I have had two new ideas of things to do.  One of them is related to this new business, and one is related to another passion I have, writing.  I want to jump in and watch success happen.  It’s not that easy, as Acuff points out.  So, I will continue reading and writing and doing things.  I will stay in motion, trying to move forward.  And eventually, I will find God’s dream for me and, hopefully, discover more of His awesomeness shining through me.

[i]  Acuff, Jonathan M. “Chapter 3.” Start: Punch Fear in the Face, Escape Average, Do Work That Matters. Kindle ed. Brentwood, TN: Lampo, The Lampo Group, 2013. Loc 508+. E-book.


[iii] Ibid.

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